Sorry for not posting in a while. We were off to Gatlinburg for a meet with some of the families who used Faithful Adoption Consultants. FAC is a great referral agency. They are number one if you ask me. No familiy with FAC has adopted in longer than 9 months. You should really check them out if you are at this point.
So on to the point. There is a bad habit amongst people to compare boys to girls. Let me tell you there is no comparison. Girls are made of Sugar and spice and everything nice while boys are made of other things. I think that everyone has comparisons but the danger is expecting boys to act like girls or vice versa. For example: a little 3-4 year old girl will probably sit and color for you. However, the boy could care less about coloring. Typically little girls will walk before boys. They just tend to be faster developers. Now I know there are exceptions but as a rule that is what I see. Society wants everyone to be in the same boat. Is that right? No. Watch out parents or you will find yourself in the same boat. Comparing your little boy to that little girl the same age. Think about that before you take your son in for a psychiatric evaluation.
That brings me on to another point associated with this. Comparisons. We want our kids to be the smartest, the first to talk, you get the picture. Well, that is fine as long as you let them have fun along the way. Kids need to be able to be kids. Stop making them act like adults. Let them get dirty, they don't need to read a book by 18 months. That's insanity not educational. I think sometimes we go overboard on educational material for our kids. Education is fine. Exposing our kids to music and athletics is great but the most important part about being a parent is exposing our kids to us. Especially Dads. Boys between the ages of 18 months to 5 years of age bond with their fathers. Remember this. You'll never look back at your life and say, "I spent too much time with my kids."
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