Birth Mother Expenses

Adoption fees can sometimes be crazy. Registration fees, homestudy fees, admin fees, agency fees, finalization fees, attorney's fees. You feel like there is a vacuum cleaner next to your wallet and its sucking all of your money out. One of the fees that you run into is the birth mother fees. Now these are fees that pay for the birth mother expenses such as utilities, rent, etc. while she is pregnant and can't work.

Here are some things you might want to realize:
1) Not all agencies have birth mother fees. My agency does not
2)Most birth mother fees are "at risk" meaning that if the birth mother backs out of the adoption, you have lost whatever fees you paid her. Be careful here because that could be almost 1/3 of your adoption budget.
3)Keep your own records. If the agency pays something to the birth mother, then make sure you know how much. Some agencies are in this for the money so watch yourself. There is a ton of money going in and out of these agencies. Also don't get scammed by an agency that says they are Christian agency. My first child's Christian agency was shutdown. Do your research. check the Better Business Bureau for complaints against that agency. My wife and I are with a Christian agency now and love it. There are good agencies out there.

Best of luck and let me know how I can help

Toddler Sayings

Understanding children can sometimes be challenging and other times it is cute. I thought I would share some of my sons vocabulary.

chichen and wies - Chicken and Fries
stick - Popsicle
facee - Pacifier
Dragon - Dinosaur - Really it means to turn on the Land Before Time video
Marney - Barney