Birth Moms

From what I have seen of the adoption world, there are two kinds of birth moms. Either they are teens to early 20's and find themselves pregnant or they are 20's to 30's with multiple kids and this child is unexpected and they can't really afford it. So you are matched with a birth mom who probably hasn't made the best decisions to date. You schedule a call and they don't show up. You don't know why and a thousand things pop in your head. Are they backing out? Have they decided to keep the baby? Is she alive? Is the baby alive? Did I say something wrong at an earlier meeting and now they don't like me? Did they choose another couple? Your mind goes places that it should not. In actuality the girl is absent minded. Doesn't keep a good track of time and the first good decision that she has made lately has been to adopt her baby. Adoption is sometimes crazy. My cousin had an adoption where the birth mother backed out and decided to keep the child. She had the birth mom's number and called her. The birth mom's family had decided to keep the child. She talked with the birth mom and after realizing that my cousin was not an axe murderer and she was going to be responsible and raise the child correctly. They decided to go forward with the adoption and now my cousin has had the baby for 12 months.

So what to do? Keep a clear mind. Reschedule your meeting. If you can talk with the birth mom do so. Some agencies don't do this but some will. Remain positive because you don't want panic to show up on your calls with the birth mom. Remember that things will get better. Its a long road but there is an end to it.