Adoptive mothers have reported experiencing this phase particularly close to the arrival of their referral and in the weeks that lead up bring their child home permanently. Mothers who have birthed children or adopted previously claim to experience this phase again. My wife was nesting and totally wanted the nursery done. Walls painted and curtains and bookshelf and pictures.. The whole works. This seemed to help busy her while she/we waited on the match. HINT - Just remember to paint the walls a neutral color. We had to go this route because we didn't know if we were having a girl or a boy.
Just as with biologically expecting mothers there may be an urge to clean one’s house from top to bottom, rearrange everything, and sanitize, sanitize, sanitize. Adoptive parents, but especially mothers, desire to complete the furnishing and decoration of the new child’s bedroom. The preparation of this room is icing on the cake and a reminder of the life that is about to come home and inhabit that space. In addition, in a time of very little control and a lot of waiting nesting behaviors can give adoptive parents a sense of control as they in are charge of the home preparation.
The expert advise is to have fun with the nesting phase without being irrational! Bring other family members into the preparation and planning as much as possible, particularly siblings that may feel left out by the sudden attention taken away from them and onto re-organization of the closet for the 3rd time!
As you nest at home, whether you are an adoptive mother or father, do not forget to prepare your heart and the emotional needs of the members of your family for the arrival of your precious new child. Some things are more important than fresh paint and a dirt free floor.
Have fun preparing the nest!
TIP>>Watch the movie Juno - great clip of nesting.
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