My adoption ebook

Here's the link on Amazon.  Try it out

http://www.amazon.com/gp/reader/147753797X/ref=sr_1_1?p=random&ie=UTF8&qid=1340306429#reader_147753797X

Children for adoption

So you are trying your hardest to find some information about adopting children.   Why can't I just go out to a website like ebay and find one I like and pick him/her out and take them home?   You have hit a wall because your search takes you to a certain site that is specifically for that agency.  What to do? 

First, think about what age child are you looking to adopt.  Am I willing to adopt an older child.  Like grade school, middle school or high school.   If you answer yes to that situation, then try to google your local state foster system.  They should have a site or try: http://adoptuskids.org/ and try that search.  That will give you a list of kids that are ready to be adopted.   Now if you want to consider a younger child, you may want to foster to adopt.   If you are open to foster to adopt, then that will open up a lot of younger kids to you.   Check with your state/county foster system for details on this program.  

Second, think about checking with the Better Business Bureau before signing with an adoption agency.  Start there.   Then check some reviews online if you can find any.  Then check with some friends who have adoped.  They will be your biggest resource and support system. 

Sometimes your local church might have some contacts.  At least they will have people there who might have gone through adoptions.   Once people know you are adopting, you will discover a large community of people who have already walked down that road.  Best of luck.

Toddlers

I think that one of the unexpected consequences of this poor economy are the parents who feel like they can longer support their kids.  My wife and I were presented with 4 toddler situations on our adoption journey.  The saiddest of which were two girls, one 18 month and one 4 year old.   Its a really sad situation.  This does present some adoption opportunities but let me tell you that these situations are risky.  Let me explain.   We had two situations where we said yes, were chosen as the adoptive parents and then the birth parents decided to keep the child.  The last one of these situations backed out 4 days before we were to meet the child.  His name is Kevin.  I still wondered what happened to Kevin. Where is he today?  Is he still with his Dad?    He will always have a place in our hearts.

Anyway back to the blog.  You need to realize the volatility of this situation.  The risk is great but so could be the reward.  Think about it.  In our case, the pool of adoptive parents were few.   So the odds are in your favor.  Are you ready to consider toddlers?  In our case, we wanted a toddler for our toddler.  An instant friend.   In your case you may just want to adopt more quickly.  At any rate, I encourage you to consider all of the options.

Bathing your baby

I thought this video on bathing your baby would be great prep for your new infant.

http://video.about.com/babyparenting/How-to-Bathe-an-Infant.htm

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How to Keep a Baby Entertained

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Keeping a baby entertained is really quite easy. They enjoy exploring almost everything and love to take things out of a purse or from drawers.

Steps

1. Place the baby on the floor on their stomach or back or place them in a bouncy seat. Make sure with there is a toy or an object in front of the baby so he or she can focus on that and play with it.
   
   
2. Find a set of keys and jingle them in front of the baby. They can get easily distracted by something like this, and if you can’t find a set of keys, try a toy that shakes or rattles.
   
   
3. Make funny sounds, talk to them, or even make faces. Babies love to be talked to and have attention focused on them. Walk around the room with them in your arms so they can see what is going on.
   
   
4. Sing songs. Play "patty cake" or "itsy bitsy spider" or other hand games. Play "peek-a-boo" by teaching the baby to lift the blanket up and down himself.
   
   
5. Give the baby something they aren't normally allowed to play with, like plastic ware, pots and pans, empty boxes or even a purse.
   
   
6. Go on an outing. Babies love to watch other kids. Take a little one to the park and let them watch the bigger kids play. Even going to a nearby area, like the backyard, corner store, or checking the mailbox will entertain a baby.
   
   
7. Read a Book to a Baby or Infant. Try using different voices, tones, pitches, gruffness, and accents to make it more entertaining. Point at and name things on a page.
   
   
8. Build a tower out of blocks together or build a tower and let the baby knock it down.
   
   
9. Try moving the baby around the house, apartment, or whatever every half-hour or so. To the baby, it may seem like an entirely new place to play.
   
   
10. Take off the baby's clothes and put him or her in an empty bathtub to play for a while. Many babies love having some time without clothes on, and it can be good for treating and preventing diaper rash.
    
    
11. Bathe an Infant; many rugrats really enjoy a bath time. Parents love coming back to a clean, happy baby.
    
    
12. Put on some music and dance with the baby held in your arms (not too rough)!
    
    
13. Many babies love ripping paper, like newspaper. Just be careful that the paper doesn't get into their mouth. To help prevent such a problem, offer the baby a pacifier as he or she plays with the paper. Try to find paper that is very clean or uses soy-based ink if possible.
    
    
14. Make room for baby in their toy box and sit them in there with the toys to play.
    
    
15. Play in the closet or under a blanket tent with flashlights and other toy lights.
    
    

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Tips

• Shiny or noisy objects and toys always seem to help. Just make sure it is not too loud for the baby to cry.
  
  
• When making faces you want to be careful as to what faces you make, you don't want to scare the baby and make them cry. Also when talking to them, you want to talk in a nice soothing and calming voice, nothing too alarming for them.
  
  
• If the baby does start to cry, blow a stream of air towards his or her face, gently like you were trying to cool a bowl of soup. This will calm the baby and he/she will usually stop for a deep breath; this is your chance to amuse.
  
  
• Babies respond better when you talk in a voice that is a little higher pitched than its normal register.
  
  
• Be creative. A lot of everyday objects and situations can become a source of entertainment for a baby. For more detailed ideas listed in a month by month guide, visit www.best-kids-activities.com/play.html.
  
  

Warnings

• Make sure you play gently - babies are delicate creatures!
  
  
• Keep your eyes on the baby at all times (or make sure someone else in the room is watching).
  
  
• Avoid objects that are sharp. Avoid playing in areas where a baby could easily bump his/her head and furniture with sharp corners.
  
  
• Babies need their own space also. They like to be left alone with books to check it out. Watch your child, but also allow them to have time alone. Do not think you have to entertain them all the time!
  
  

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Sources and Citations

• For more detailed ideas listed in a month by month guide, visit www.best-kids-activities.com/play.html. It will show you ideas of things to do to entertain babies from newborns through school age children!
  
  

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Why you shouldn't worry about the Homestudy

Home study visits primarily serve to ensure your home meets State licensing standards (e.g., working smoke alarms, safe storage of firearms, safe water, adequate space for each child, etc.).   If you are using the Adoption through the State method, the State will perform the homestudy.  The agency or State will generally require the worker to see all areas of the house or apartment, including where the children will sleep, the basement, and the back yard. He or she will be looking for how you plan to accommodate a new family member (or members, if you are planning to adopt a sibling group). Social workers are not typically inspecting your housekeeping standards so don’t worry about a white glove test. 

If you are adopting through an agency, the homestudy was basically hired by you.  Think about it, you are paying for their services.  You are the customer.   Typically they are there to advise you on your home and not to keep you from moving to the next step in your adoption.   So rest easy that this is not a hurdle but a turn in the road.   God Bless you.

How to Install a Car Seat

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The birth of a new child brings many challenges, one of which is ensuring your baby stays safe. Incorrect installation of a car seat is often overlooked, resulting in putting your newborn’s life in danger. By following the steps set forth in this TaskMap you can rest assured knowing that each trip your baby goes on is a safe one.

Steps

Rear Facing Car Seat

1. Place the car seat in the backseat. Face the car seat towards rear window. Using the backseat is always safer for infants, this is especially true in a car with air bags. If it is necessary to place the baby in the passenger seat be sure to turn off passenger airbag (Refer to the owner's manual on how to do so).
2. Attach seat belt tightly to car seat base. Check owner's manual/ seat belt label for tightening instructions . New car seats may use lower latch anchors to attach the car seat, refer to manual for instructions on how to use these anchors. WARNING: Do not use lower anchors and seat belts together. The car seat is tight when you pull it side to side and it does more than 1 inch.
3. Ensure car seat in reclined sufficiently, this is so that the baby's head will wont flop forward. Never tilt the car seat more than halfway (45 degrees) back. Use indicator on the car seat or base as a guide. If necessary place rolled towel under the base (only if manual says it is okay to do so).
4. Dress baby in tight clothing. This will help prevent irritation from the crotch strap. Do not dress the baby in heavy clothes as tighten the straps snugly may not be possible.
5. Put shoulder straps in lowest possible position. Use slots next to or below baby's shoulders and position chest clip at armpit level.
6. Tuck rolled up blankets along the baby's sides. Padding helps get the baby comfortable. Never use inserts, blankets, or towels under or behind the baby.
7. Roll up and place a washcloth between the baby and the crotch strap.
8. Adjust the harness straps. If you can pinch a loop of the strap, tighten the harness more.
9. Cover baby with a blanket. During cold weather, it is especially important keep your baby's body warm. Make sure blankets are tucked in under the baby and cannot cover baby's face and neck.

Front Facing Car Seat

1. Read the instruction manual. Each car seat requires different harness slots, so it's best you determine this information from the manual specific to the car seat you're using.
2. Place the car seat in the back of your car. The base should be flat on the seat of the car and the back should be straight up against the cushion. Raise or remove head restraints if necessary.
3. Find the belt path on the car seat. It should be marked with stickers (usually located in the back of the seat).
4. Attach the car seat's tethers to your car's tether anchor. If your car seat doesn't have tethers, consider calling your manufacterer to see if they can be added—they can dramatically increase safety in your car [1].
5. Ensure a snug harness. Consider having your installation double-checked by a child passenger safety technician to ensure proper installation.

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Tips

• Unless provided with no alternative, always install the car in the back seat facing the rear window (for rear facing car seats). If this is not possible, ensure that the passenger air bag is turned off (check your car’s owner’s manual for directions on shutting off the airbag). The force that the airbag deploys in is so great that it could kill your child (even if the accident was a simple fender bender), do not take this risk.
• Use the infant rear facing car seat as long as possible, meaning; until the baby’s head is within 1 inch of the top shell of the car seat or until the baby reaches the car seat’s weight limit. Once your baby has outgrown the infant car seat, move onto using a rear-facing convertible seat. The rear facing convertible should be used until as long as possible (until your child has outgrown the seat).
• Singing or playing with your baby will help calm him down
• Use the angle indicator to ensure that the car seat is reclined properly
• In many countries, Police stations will check your car seat installation if you have any doubts about it being properly secured. In other countries, the local DMV equivalent will be the correct government body for such inspections -check your local regulations. A car accident could happen at any time, its best to ensure your child’s safety.
• Due to changes in regulations, some (even slightly) used car-seats may now be illegal -check before you buy.
• Also check with the manufacturer if parts of a car seats have been recalled (this has happened), since many will offer free upgrade kits or repairs.

Warnings

• Never remove a child from their car seat while the vehicle is in motion
• Do not use latch anchors and seat belts together to secure a car seat
• Do not dress your child in too many layers as this may make it difficult or impossible to secure the harness straps

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• How to Buy Car Seat Covers
• How to Keep a Child Car Seat Dryer While Potty Training
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• How to Travel by Plane With an Infant or Toddler

Sources and Citations

• http://www.carseatsite.com/installing_your_car_seat.htm

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